People don't just simply change their character accordingly. They typically suppress their character by keeping up a front and/or be uncomfortable around people who tell them what to be.

And then they just change their environment by leaving. Feels familiar yet?

Well, for me though, I just stay and ignore everything which is also rather unprofessional and unexpected as a human in society, you then realize what I just wrote is basically an irony in itself because that is also what will change you, unwillingly. So yeah, what defines us again? I don't think I will ever get this part about life.